What Does the You Without Limiting Beliefs Actually Want?
- Fabienne
- Jan 7
- 3 min read
How Root Cause Therapy Helps You Find Out
A friend asked me a question recently that stayed with me far longer than I expected:
“What does the me without limiting beliefs actually want?”
Not the tired version of you.
Not the part shaped by fear, responsibility, or self-protection.
But the version that trusts herself, knows her worth, and isn’t holding back.
When you let that version speak (before fear edits the answer), what do you actually want?
More confidence?
More money?
More freedom?
More joy?
More impact?
More love?
At first, my own answers sounded reasonable. Polite. Manageable.
And then I noticed something underneath: a quieter truth that hadn’t been consulted yet.
That moment revealed something essential about limiting beliefs.
Why We Don’t Actually Know What We Want (Yet)
Most people think they lack clarity or motivation.
In reality, many desires are filtered through survival patterns long before they reach consciousness.
You might say:
“I want more peace,” but what your body wants is to stop bracing.
“I want more confidence,” but your system is still protecting you from being seen.
“I want more freedom,” but an old emotional memory associates freedom with loss, rejection, or danger.
Limiting beliefs don’t usually live as clear thoughts like “I’m not allowed to want this.
”They live in the nervous system—as hesitation, tightness, self-doubt, or exhaustion.
This is why insight alone often isn’t enough.
Why Mindset Work Alone Often Doesn’t Work
You can understand your patterns intellectually.
You can journal, reframe, visualize, and repeat affirmations.
And still feel stuck.
Not because you’re failing, but because the belief shaping your choices was formed emotionally, not logically.
Most limiting beliefs are created early, before language, during moments when your system learned what was safe, acceptable, or possible.
This is exactly where Root Cause Therapy works differently.
What Root Cause Therapy Actually Is
Root Cause Therapy (RCT) is a trauma-informed approach that identifies and releases the emotional origin of limiting beliefs, rather than managing their symptoms.
Instead of asking:“Why am I like this?” RCT asks:“When did this belief first make sense?”
Rather than pushing through fear, we locate the moment the body learned it needed protection.
For example:
A client wants to be more visible in her work but freezes whenever she speaks publicly.
She’s confident, capable, and well prepared, yet her body reacts as if she’s unsafe.
In Root Cause Therapy, we don’t force confidence.
We trace the fear back to its origin.
Often, it’s a seemingly small moment:
Being laughed at.
Being corrected harshly.
Being too much for someone important.
The body doesn’t measure impact by logic, it measures it by felt safety.
When that original emotional imprint is released, something shifts naturally.
Not because the person “worked on confidence.”
But because the reason for holding back no longer exists.
What Changes After a Limiting Belief Is Released
One of the most noticeable shifts after Root Cause Therapy is how desire feels.
It’s no longer driven by urgency, compensation, or pressure.
It becomes clearer—and quieter.
Clients often realize:
They don’t need more motivation; they need permission to rest.
They don’t want more success; they want less self-betrayal.
They don’t want to push forward; they want to stop holding themselves back.
This isn’t about lowering ambition. It’s about removing the emotional constraints that distort desire in the first place.
What Does the You Without Limiting Beliefs Actually Want? Letting the Heart Answer Before Fear Does
So when you return to the question:
“What does the me without limiting beliefs actually want?”
Notice what happens if you let your body answer first.
Before fear negotiates.
Before responsibility interrupts.
Before the inner voice says, “That’s not realistic.”
Root Cause Therapy doesn’t tell you what to want.
It removes what has been blocking your access to that knowing.
And from there, change doesn’t require force.
It unfolds because you’re no longer living from an old emotional contract that says:“This is as much as I’m allowed to have.”
If this question lingers - not as inspiration, but as a quiet disturbance - it may be pointing to a belief ready to be released.
And when that happens, wanting no longer feels dangerous.
It feels grounded.
Clear.
And unmistakably yours.
With warmth and possibility,
Fabienne ♡
(What Does the You Without Limiting Beliefs Actually Want?)
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